Comments on: Stranger in a Strange Land – Love vs Jealousy, and On Polyamory http://shanegreenup.com/2008/09/stranger-in-a-strange-land-love-vs-jealousy-and-on-polyamory/ Forever Moving Forward Sat, 24 Mar 2012 19:46:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Akane http://shanegreenup.com/2008/09/stranger-in-a-strange-land-love-vs-jealousy-and-on-polyamory/comment-page-1/#comment-135 Akane Wed, 29 Jun 2011 22:42:25 +0000 http://shanegreenup.com/2008/09/stranger-in-a-strange-land-love-vs-jealousy-and-on-polyamory/#comment-135 “if only he had stayed true and been monogamous, then none of this would have happened”... I don't think statement identifies the foundation of the problem. The problem would be that said 'cheater' agreed to the rules of a social construct, made a vow and did not communicate why and with whom. Communication is key to ANY relationship. Sex will not fix broken communication; if any one part of the party is unhappy, the relationship will fail... even in Polyamory. Even in SIASL, the married couples in Valentine's inner circle communicated often and worked through their differences together. I like your article, but feel like you've missed the mark: Betrayal and Jealousy swim in the same river but they are not the same thing. “if only he had stayed true and been monogamous, then none of this would have happened”…

I don’t think statement identifies the foundation of the problem. The problem would be that said ‘cheater’ agreed to the rules of a social construct, made a vow and did not communicate why and with whom.

Communication is key to ANY relationship. Sex will not fix broken communication; if any one part of the party is unhappy, the relationship will fail… even in Polyamory.

Even in SIASL, the married couples in Valentine’s inner circle communicated often and worked through their differences together.

I like your article, but feel like you’ve missed the mark: Betrayal and Jealousy swim in the same river but they are not the same thing.

]]> By: JujuMama LLC http://shanegreenup.com/2008/09/stranger-in-a-strange-land-love-vs-jealousy-and-on-polyamory/comment-page-1/#comment-29 JujuMama LLC Fri, 06 Mar 2009 07:53:00 +0000 http://shanegreenup.com/2008/09/stranger-in-a-strange-land-love-vs-jealousy-and-on-polyamory/#comment-29 OMG. I have to tweet this right now. So powerful, so profound, so unbelievable sane and soothing and soft and safe and sensual and seductive and savvy. I love you! I love you so much. Thank you for writing this and sharing this and finding this from within yourself to expose the lies and the wonderful laberynth of light we weave. You are a master with the words. Thanks again!<br/><br/>Here is my blog on poly - maybe you would stop in and view me from the inside like I have seen your inner glory.<br/><br/>Bliss to you!<br/><br/>http://jujumama.wordpress.com<br/><br/>JujuMama<br/><br/>By the way I found your post on another poly site in your comment to him. But this I did not expect. OMG. I have to tweet this right now. So powerful, so profound, so unbelievable sane and soothing and soft and safe and sensual and seductive and savvy. I love you! I love you so much. Thank you for writing this and sharing this and finding this from within yourself to expose the lies and the wonderful laberynth of light we weave. You are a master with the words. Thanks again!

Here is my blog on poly – maybe you would stop in and view me from the inside like I have seen your inner glory.

Bliss to you!

http://jujumama.wordpress.com

JujuMama

By the way I found your post on another poly site in your comment to him. But this I did not expect.

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